The Essential Dos and Don’ts for Visiting Someone with Dementia
When a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, the journey can feel overwhelming—not just for them, but for friends and family, too. Social connections remain vital to their well-being, yet many people hesitate to visit because they aren’t sure what to say, how to act, or how their loved one will respond.
The truth? Even if the person doesn’t recognize you, your presence matters. Meaningful visits can bring joy, reduce feelings of isolation, and improve overall quality of life. The key is understanding how to approach these moments with empathy, patience, and preparation.
Do’s for a Positive Dementia Visit
1. Make Gentle Eye Contact
This helps establish trust and creates a sense of safety.
2. Join Their Reality
If they believe they’re preparing for a school class or talking about a long-past event, go along with their conversation without correcting them.
3. Embrace Silence
Sometimes, just being together quietly is enough. Don’t feel pressured to fill every moment with words.
4. Bring a Shared Activity
Music, photo albums, crafts, or simple games can help spark connection.
5. Keep a Calm, Relaxed Presence
Your tone, pace, and body language can set the mood for the entire visit.
6. Offer Either-Or Choices
Questions like “Would you like tea or juice?” are easier to answer than open-ended ones.
7. Introduce Yourself Clearly
A brief and warm introduction—“Hi, Dad, it’s Emily. It’s so good to see you”—helps avoid confusion.
8. Match Their Physical Level
If they are seated, sit with them to maintain comfortable eye-level interaction.
Don’ts for Dementia Visits
1. Don’t Talk Down to Them
They are adults with a lifetime of experiences—treat them with dignity and respect.
2. Don’t Take Hurtful Words Personally
Anger, swearing, or accusations are symptoms of the disease, not true reflections of their feelings for you.
3. Don’t Argue or Correct
Trying to “fix” their memory can create distress. Instead, focus on enjoying the present moment together.
4. Don’t Show Frustration or Fear
Even subtle body language can affect their mood. Stay calm and reassuring.
5. Don’t Ask “Do You Remember?”
This can cause embarrassment or anxiety if they don’t.
6. Don’t Talk About Them as If They’re Not There
Always include them in conversations when they are present.
Making Visits More Meaningful
Beyond these tips, remember that consistency matters. Regular visits, even short ones, provide structure, emotional connection, and comfort. Pairing these interactions with professional dementia care can further enhance your loved one’s quality of life.
How Hopeful Haven Home Care Can Help
At Hopeful Haven Home Care in Lawrenceville, Georgia, we specialize in compassionate, individualized dementia care. Our trained caregivers provide more than just assistance—they bring companionship, emotional support, and activities tailored to each client’s abilities and preferences. We help bridge the gap between family visits, ensuring your loved one remains socially engaged, comfortable, and respected.
Whether you need part-time support or full-time in-home dementia care, we’re here to help your family navigate the challenges with compassion and expertise.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Should I keep visiting if my loved one doesn’t recognize me?
A: Absolutely. Familiar voices, gestures, and emotional connections still matter, even if they can’t place your name or relationship.
Q: How long should a dementia visit last?
A: Short, consistent visits—20 to 40 minutes—are often best, depending on their mood and energy level.
Q: What’s the best gift to bring?
A: Items that stimulate memory or comfort, such as favorite snacks, soft blankets, music from their era, or photos.
Q: Can professional caregivers help with social visits?
A: Yes. Dementia-trained caregivers can facilitate visits, prepare engaging activities, and help manage challenging moments.